I wanna talk really real with you girls right now. We are all different. Every single one of us have things about us that make us unique. When I was a teenager, Britney Spears and Christina Aguilera were the girls to be like... I remember watching them, studying them. Picking clothes based on what they wore. They never looked like that on me and I was always hating on myself for not having a body like them. Here’s the thing, I’m 5’10 and until I had kids, I was essentially built like a 2x4, except for my big hips.. I even had someone tell me once at 16 years old that I had “child bearing hips”, which to a young teenage girl who was already bigger than all her girlfriends and most the guys her age...it killed my soul. The man had no idea that he had insulted me, he actually thought he was giving me a compliment. I had my first son when I was 19 years old. At 19 my body had drastically changed. Suddenly, I was considered a curvy girl, with stretch marks and cellulite. I HATED my body. I hated how I didn’t look like my girlfriends. How I couldn’t wear clothes from the junior section anymore. After my second son was born, I decided to take up running. My body changed but still held on to its curvy nature. My running buddy, who I adore, was naturally petite. 5’2” and very small. Even with the changes in my body that were positive for me, I still felt like this big giant next to her. We decided to get a trainer. We went to his office to discuss our goals. I said I wanted to look like Cameron Diaz. He laughed. He actually laughed. Then he said something to me that clicked like nothing had clicked with me before. “You need to be realistic, you aren’t built to ever be Cameron Diaz, but you could be built like Beyoncé. Your body is not made to be that skinny. You would look malnourished.” It hit me hard, y’all! In a good way! In that moment I finally realized my body is built for me. From there, I was able to begin loving the other aspects of myself that always seemed different from everyone else. I say all of that to say, once I stopped looking at what was different about me in a negative way and embraced it and loved myself for it, I changed. I grew confident in myself. Not just with my body, but with my personality differences as well. I changed my thought process. Instead of hating my height, my size, my goofiness, my emotions, and all the other things I saw as negative.. I told myself those were the things that made me special and unique. I began to love myself for who I was at that time instead of who I was always trying to be. Ladies.. if you can do that.. you will blossom in so many ways. You will see your life becoming exactly what you always wanted it to be and all it takes is accepting yourself. I am rambling, I know. The whole point of this was to connect it to fashion... we are a clothing boutique after all... here’s where the stories connect. I realized low rise pants should never be on my body.. I am thrilled high rise came back in style simply so I could stock up on pants that were flattering to my figure. I understand now that crop tops aren’t my thing either. And as much as I love a one piece on other people.. unless they make them with a very long torso.. those things don’t love me back. I am ok with that now. I have found that I personally love the bohemian style. It flatters my body type and really speaks to my personality. I like things with flow. I love feminine touches. I also love a pair of cut off short and a simple tank top. Fashion isn’t about what the models are wearing or even what the Kardashians wear... actually it’s the opposite. That’s copying someone else’s style. Style is you. Who you are. What you love. What you feel good in. My business partner loves shift dresses. Loves them.. but not on herself. But she understands that style doesn’t work on her body. But she can absolutely rock a jumpsuit or romper, where I can’t. It is all about finding things that work for you! If you are pear shaped, try a pair of wide leg pants, or a dress with an a-line and ruffled top, or leggings and an oversized shirt. The trick is balancing the top and bottom. If you are rectangle shaped, sleeveless and strapless dresses will make you look on point! An inverted triangle? Show off that top with a great v neck and a pencil skirt. Are you an hourglass? Accentuate that waist, girl! Wear dresses that cinch at the waist, wear a bodysuit or a tight tucked in shirt with your pants. Apple shaped? Flowy tops with some sleeves are stunning on you with flared pants! It’s all about showing off what you love and creating a balance between your top and bottom, no matter your size or shape. Have fun with fashion and yourself. Find your style and own it! Love what you buy. Love what you wear. But mostly, love yourself!
Lastly, we are always here to help at Composed Rose! If you need help finding things that work for your body, please, reach out and email us! We would love to help you find things that work best for you! We want our customers to feel fabulous in what they order from us. Our goal isn’t to just sell clothes, it’s to make women feel empowered and confident and fabulous in not only what they wear, but in themselves!
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